Wedding ceremonies where the couple says a personal vow in addition to their legal vow adds to the meaning of their commitment.
Personal wedding vows usually include individual person-specific references (eg. I promise to support your football team and go to their games with you).
If couples are not confident writing their own personal vows, I provide examples to use, amend or edit as they see fit.
Like this one…Name, I promise to speak to you and about you with kindness, respect and compassion. I cannot promise that I won’t annoy or frustrate you, or to never be moody. I might not always agree with you, but I will always consider your opinion with an open heart and mind. I promise to love you, support you, and to stand with you and not run when the going gets tough. This is my vow to you.
Or this one…Name, from the moment I first saw you, I knew you were the one with whom I wanted to share my life. You inspire me to be the best person I can be. I promise to love, respect and care for you. I vow to love you as you are, and not as I want you to be. I promise to grow old by your side as your lover and best friend. This is my vow to you today and always.
Some couples write their personal vows and share them with each other in advance so they both know that their vows are similar in length and tone. Sharing vows before the wedding also enables the couple to “take in” the meaning of the vows, without any distractions or nerves that may arise on the wedding day.
Some couples keep their vows secret and share them for the first time at their wedding. If couples choose to do this, I ask them to decide on a similar word count. Nothing worse than if one person writes two lines and the other twenty!
Some couples say their vows line by line in an alternate fashion.
For example… Groom:I promise to always love you and take care of you
Bride:I promise to never stop working to make us even stronger
Groom:I promise to honour the commitments we make today, whether I am far from home or wrapped in your arms.
Bride:I promise that from this day forward you’ll never walk alone
Groom:I promise to give you my undivided attention, as long as there is no football on TV.
Bride:I promise to never keep score, even when I am totally winning
Groom:I promise to believe in you even when you don’t believe in yourself
Bride:I cannot promise that I will always deserve you, but I promise I will try my very best.
Groom:I promise to grow old along with you.
Bride:I promise you, me.
Want more ideas? Check out this great guide on writing vows from Wedshed