Tuesday 15 July, 2014
I was recently interviewed about marriage and why I became a Civil Celebrant. Here’s the low-down…
You and Joe have been married for 26 years. What do you remember most fondly about your marriage ceremony?
Besides the actual vows, our entrance was pretty special. My father had died 3 years prior, so I wanted something different for my ‘walk down the aisle’. Joe and I entered from either side, met in the middle and walked down the aisle together to enter into marriage. The act symbolised our relationship: side-by-side as unique and equal individuals, sharing mutual respect, and supporting each other through life. It was a poignant moment and a cherished memory.
What do you think Joe loves about you?
Well, I like to have fun and this often involves a personal challenge to try or learn something new. So I keep life interesting. Put it this way, Joe never really knows what’s next with me. And almost inevitably he is swept along in the fun and adventure.
What do you love about Joe?
He makes me laugh, every day. And he is a great confidante and support. He has incredible patience, which I have drawn on over the years when mine has worn out.
What brings you joy?
Apart from Joe, my three children, my extended family and gorgeous friends, I find joy in creating. Be it writing, cooking, sewing, home renovating, gardening…
Why did you become a Civil Celebrant?
To provide great ceremonies! I got fed up of seeing wedding ceremonies that lacked professionalism and emotion, and knew I could provide couples with the ceremony of their dreams. Besides this, the role involves everything I love to do – creating, presenting and meeting new people.
What are your strengths as a Civil Celebrant?
My pride. I refuse to produce a horrible ceremony. Like Mr G, I am a triple threat – I can connect, I can write, I can present. And I connect easily with people, which makes collaboration enjoyable.
What do you think is the role of a Celebrant?
Ah…the role is complex, but the main job is to be the ‘Chief Joy Facilitator’. Weddings can be stressful, not only for the couple but for family members, so the role of the celebrant is to remove the stress and ensure the ceremony is well planned and executed so that the experience is joyful.
Have you ever been to a horrible wedding ceremony?
Who hasn’t? The last ceremony I attended I could not hear the words. Then there was the one where the celebrant forgot the names of the bride and groom. It was criminal!
Why do you think a marriage ceremony is important?
A highly regarded celebrant once told me that the marriage ceremony is the ‘opening act of the wedding day’. It is, in a sense, but more importantly it signifies the beginning of a new relationship. I believe that if the ceremony is done well, it can form the foundation of a married relationship, and support the couple throughout their life. I place great importance in celebrating momentous life events with considered thought and attention.