They spend months or even years planning their wedding so that it is the best day of their life.
And then the day arrives. Guess what happens.
The wedding day absolutely flies by and the couple fails to enjoy the experience.
It’s often because nerves and distractions can ruin their level of enjoyment.
This can happen with the wedding ceremony if the couple finds the ceremony particularly nerve-wracking. Not surprising, making a life-changing decision and commitment in front of your loved ones is hardly a normal or regular occurrence!
Fact is, everyone, quite naturally, experiences some nerves on their wedding day, and that’s okay.
BUT, if you want to increase your level of enjoyment on your wedding day and make the memories of your marriage ceremony last a lifetime, you need to reduce the impact of nerves and distractions.
It’s no easy feat, but here’s 7 ways to help you achieve your goal.
1. Make sure you’re in good shape
Aim for a good night’s sleep every night during the week before your wedding day. And, on your wedding day, keep your energy levels up by ensuring you eat well and drink lots of water. That way you won’t be exhausted, and instead, you will arrive clear-headed and ready for the wedding ceremony.
2. Schedule a little ‘alone time’
The hours before the start of the wedding ceremony can be hectic and sometimes overwhelming. Keep yourself grounded by taking at least 20 minutes “alone time” to stop and rest. Use the time to relax fully, and to remind yourself how good life is, and what the day is really about. Be extra loving and kind to yourself and to others. Enjoy the moment.
3. Keep focus and chill out
The way to diminish any ego or fear and to keep focus on your wedding day is to take regular long, slow, deep breaths. And, to smile! Do both regularly if you want a relaxed frame of mind. Before the ceremony starts, take your time and breathe mindfully. When you walk down the aisle, take your time and smile. Look into your partner’s eyes and smile. Make eye contact with your guests and smile. This is your ceremony, your exquisite moment in time, so be mindful to enjoy each moment.
4. Practice your vows
Even if you repeat your vows after the Celebrant, make sure you are familiar with your vows! Think about the words you have chosen for your vows and practice them so that the words become conversational, natural and relaxed. Read your vows in the mirror to teach yourself to look up so you can practice making eye contact with your partner. Say your vows slowly.
5. Come prepared
Expect to feel a little (or a lot) overcome by your emotions on your wedding day. It’s normal. Apart from marrying your very best friend, you’ll be overwhelmed by the love, support and excitement of your family and friends. So again, remember to breathe! Let the emotions wash-over you. Ensure you have a handkerchief available – even if you think you won’t need it, you might in case you cry or if you perspire.
6. Choose happiness
Let’s be honest, despite all your planning, there’s always something that happens unexpectedly on a wedding day. Whatever it is, know that you have a choice as to how to respond to the situation. Choose happiness. Smile. Even laugh. Your main goal on your wedding day is to marry your best friend, enjoy yourself, and celebrate your new married relationship. Nothing else really matters in the big scheme of things.
7. Trust your celebrant
It’s the celebrant’s job to be your anchor. To bring a sense of calm and efficiency to you and your guests. So choose a celebrant that is organized, totally prepared, and conveys a presence that is warm, loving and calming. Trust them to “run the ceremony” and to guide you, with full confidence that they have your very best interests in mind.
If you have any questions or comments, feel free to contact me or call: 0413-55 523
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