Friday 19 September, 2014
Are you having fun planning your wedding? Or do you feel stressed by expectations and overwhelmed by too many choices and decision-making?
If you’re not enjoying yourself, you may well need to examine your expectations about your wedding. Perhaps your standards are beyond reach and reason.
Don’t let the pursuit for perfectionism spoil what should be a wonderful and enjoyable time in your life.
How to have a perfect wedding ceremony is simple.
All you have to do is focus your attention on your expression of love, your level of engagement and connecting with your guests.
Let me explain…
The other night I was channel surfing on the television when I stumbled upon an episode of Australian Story. It was about a young woman’s experience living with terminal cancer.
It was an emotionally-charged story, particularly when it came to her wedding day. I bawled my eyes as I saw the look of utter love and happiness on the couple’s faces. As they held hands and looked into each other’s eyes, I knew they were completely absorbed that very moment. It was real. It was memorable. It was ‘perfect.’
Just days before her wedding, the woman was asked if she was ready for her big day. She replied somewhat “Well I’ve got my man, the celebrant, the rings, the guests, so yes I’m ready.” She was calm and relaxed, clearly focussed on what mattered most to her – the relationships with the people she loved.
I’m not saying that things like the dress, location, setting, music and decorations don’t matter. But it’s probably worth asking yourself, what does a perfect wedding ceremony look and feel like to you?
From my experience, the 3 secrets to creating a ‘perfect’ wedding ceremony is when
- a couple can convey their love to one another – be it as simple as a smile, hold hands, or look into each other’s eyes during the vows
- a couple has input into the ceremony – it should sound and feel like them
- a couple engages with the guests, so the guests become emotionally involved
There are heaps of ways to achieve these essentials, so my advice is to choose a few things which you honestly care about, and you’ll feel your heart strings tug when you think back on them.
Rid yourself of any unrealistic expectations. Relax, have fun and enjoy your wedding preparations.☺
